If you find it difficult to meet new people, this article will offer you some tips and ideas about where you can go to meet new people. Keeping in mind that meeting people is a skill. With time and practice anyone can learn how to meet people. The skill of knowing how to meet people can impact many aspects of your life, not only your social life, but also your business life.
This article gives suggestions of ten ways to meet new people. The Meet People website offers suggestions on techniques to Meet People. There you will find tips on how to make small talk, how to read body language, the best places to meet people, and suggestions of different ways to meet people.
But of course everyone will prefer a different way to meet people. Use this list as a start to discover the best way for YOU to meet new people.
- 1 Advantages of Meeting People by Online Dating
- 2 Be A Rapid Dater
- 3 Meet Up
- 4 Take Salsa Dance Lessons
- 5 Get A Job!!
- 6 Go to Gym
- 7 Learn the Art of the Non-Verbal Invitation
- 8 Join The Club
- 9 Pickup Lines
Advantages of Meeting People by Online Dating
One of the Easiest Ways To Meet New People
No longer seen as a haven for desperate and dateless, online dating is one of the quickest and easiest ways to meet people:
You can quickly meet people whose characteristics (age, religion, height, weight) match what you are seeking.
The anonymity of the internet makes it very easy to communicate with strangers.
You can spread your cast and search wider areas to meet people than you would normally be able to do.
You can meet people from the quiet and comfort of your home.
Meeting the right people and finding the right partner is a matter of numbers, meeting as many people as possible over a short period of time. Internet dating allows you to virtually meet many people over a short time allowing you to meet people you would not normally meet.
Today you can find a variety of websites to meet every type of individual and need. As an Example
Disadvantages of Online Dating
Like everywhere on the internet, there are frauds. Married people say they are single, people post misleading photos of themselves or give incorrect information about themselves (age, height, weight, etc).
Someone’s personality may seem very different on the Internet than they actually are in real life.
You can spend months falling in love with a false image of someone only to have that image evaporate in the first seconds after meeting him or her in real life.
You may fall in love with someone too far away to have a normal relationship with him or her.
There are many good people online, but many scammers as well. If someone you have never met asks for money for any reason (illness, visa, travel to meet you, etc) be suspicious. They could be a scammer.
The secret to internet dating is not to take the ‘relationship’ too seriously until after the first face-to-face meeting has taken place. Use the Internet dating process to select a few interesting people and then meet them quickly, within 1 to 2 months. If the person is not who you imagine them to be, forget it and move on. Until the first face-to-face meeting, keep personal details (last name, address, workplace, home phone number, etc ) confidential. And keep your emotions in check. Remember, many people will not be what you imagine them to be.
Be A Rapid Dater
Meet People With Speed Dating
Speed dating capitalizes on the idea that couples know within the first few minutes if there is chemistry. By meeting many people for a few minutes, we increase the likelihood of finding a potential match in a short period of time.
A Speed date is an organized event where people meet each other over a series of short dates, lasting anywhere from 3 to 10 minutes. At the end the “date”, the organizer gives a signal and the participants to move on. In this way, each participant can meet anywhere from 10-30 people. At the end of the event each dater gives the names of people that they would like to see again. If there is a match the organizers provide both people with contact information.
How to meet new people without “looking” for a date
Don’t like the idea of Internet dating? Why not use the power of the Internet to facilitate meeting people face-to-face. This is the idea of Meet Up.
From Wikipedia: Meetup.com is an online social networking portal that facilitates offline group meetings in various localities around the world. Meetup allows members to find and join groups unified by a common interest, such as politics, books, games, movies, health, pets, careers or hobbies. Users enter their ZIP code (or their city outside the United States) and the topic they want to meet about, and the website helps them arrange a place and time to meet.
For example, if you are in Toronto, Canada and are interested in Meditation, you will find The Toronto Meditation Meetup Group. Or if you are in NYC and like Yoga, you will find your group there.
You just signup and you will receive an email informing you of the next time and location that the group will meet.
Meetup allows you to personally meet people with similar interests right in your local area.
Take Salsa Dance Lessons
How to meet new people by taking dance lessons
Dance lessons are a great way to meet people, because you will be paired up with many partners and have a chance to meet new people almost every day. Of all types of dance lessons to take, Salsa is the BEST for meeting people.
If you are going to take dance lessons, by all means take SALSA dance lessons. Salsa is a relatively new fashion and there are Salsa dance clubs everywhere. So, after you have taken a few salsa lessons you can start going to salsa clubs and meetine people there. Since Salsa is a couples dance, you are expected to ask people to dance with you and this is a great opportunity to meet someone who looks interesting. If you take any other kind of dance lessons (ballroom, tango, jazz, etc) after you have developed your skills you will find very few places to use them.
Get A Job!!
Dealing With The Public
It is a bad idea to date a co-worker and this should be avoided if possible. However, there is nothing wrong with dating a customer! Get a job that puts you in contact with the public. This will have two results:
- Because you have to constantly interact with people, getting a customer relations job will improve your people skills
- You will have daily interaction with interesting people and one of them may be someone you like.
So, if you are a woman, apply to work as a salesperson in a men’s clothing store. If you are a guy, try to get a job in a woman’s shoe store. Or get a job as a bartender or waiter/waitress. These are perfect part-time jobs for students and will put you in contact with many, many people.
Go to Gym
It is something of a cliche to meet people at a gym. But this is an excellent opportunity that should not be missed. Going to the gym has several advantages:
You get to see people in very revealing outfits, and you will quickly know who is attractive.
You will not only be meeting healthy people, but at the same time, you are working on making yourself more attractive.
Try to find a gym that has a co-ed recreation facility, such as a Whirlpool / Jacuzzi / Sauna / Steambath, etc. It is very easy to strike up a conversation with someone when you are sitting around relaxing.
Learn the Art of the Non-Verbal Invitation
You are in a crowded cafe, coffee cup in hand, scanning the premises for a seat. In the distance, someone looks at you, smiles and removes their jacket from the adjacent chair. Your reaction? In all probability you will accept the chair being offered. You have accepted this person’s non-verbal invitation. Can you imagine that this person may have placed that jacket on the chair intentionally in order to reserve it for someone just like you? There is a good chance that they did.
We all do it. We get on a bus or go to a theater and place our jackets or briefcase on the chair next to us. We may do it in order to put our jackets somewhere, or to reserve the seat for a friend who we are waiting for. Then when it gets crowded, we remove our items and offer the chair to someone who seems to want to sit.
Why not learn to use this socially accepted behavior to intentionally reserve a chair in a cafe for someone you would LIKE to sit next to you? The non-verbal invitation is a polite way of offering a space near you to someone you find interesting or attractive.
Join The Club
Activities To Meet People
Find a “social activity club” in your area. Some social activity clubs are oriented to sports, others to dining and still others to cultural activities. Find an activity to meet people and the atmosphere will be less about dating and more about enjoying. There are many such activities to meet people and there are many clubs which organize such activities. Find one that is comfortable for you.
In general, we do not suggest pick up lines. Most of the time, they are superficial and will make you appear to be shallow. Avoid them whenever possible. It is usually better to say something more natural that has to do with the situation you are in. But sometimes a pickup line can work and sometimes you can think of nothing else to say. If you can think of no way else to open a conversation, a pickup line may be better than no opening at all. If you can say one of these with confidence, it might just work.
Here are some of our favorites:
- If I received a nickel for every time I saw someone as beautiful as you, I would have just earned my first five cents. Some may enjoy the message; others may wonder what you are talking about. A more direct approach is below.
- I don’t want you to think I’m ridiculous or anything, but you are the most gorgeous girl I have ever seen. I just felt like I had to tell you. MUST be said with sincerity. Many girls have heard some variation of this dozens of times.
- Hi, I just wanted to give you the satisfaction of turning me down; go ahead say no. A little reverse psychology just might work once in a while, if said with humor. But this can also show lack of self-esteem. The difference is in the delivery.
- Hi! I want your opinion on something. I have two different colognes on my wrists (or neck if you are brave) and I wonder if you will tell me which one you like better. An early close contact may show confidence. This maybe the best approach for many.