Being A Good Person
I always had in mind about the need to write an article about low self esteem and the importance of building good self esteem. However, as professional writer on self development topics, I was surprised to find how many people search the internet for the phrase ‘I want to be a good person’ and ‘how to be a good person’ or simply ‘how to be good. I was expecting to find a greater number to search for ‘better person’ or ‘how to be a better person’. It is for the simple reason that many of us feel that we are already ‘good’ and are looking for ways to become ‘better’.
Let us start by putting one argument to rest first by saying that ‘no one is bad by design or by creation. There can be no single soul which can claim that ‘I am the epitome of goodness’. There is always scope to become a better person by building a healthy self esteem. There is always scope to being closer to becoming good by developing good qualities and good positive attitudes and eliminating low self esteem and developing an inner self confidence.
Self Esteem and Self Confidence
Let us get to the point straight – If you do not have self esteem, you cannot develop self confidence. To understand self esteem let us break the term into two words. Let us take a look at the word esteem first. Esteem is a word for holding that someone or something as highly regarded and respected. And self means, well, yourself! So put the two words together and it’s easier to see what self-esteem is. It’s how much you value yourself and how important you think you are. It is how you see yourself> and how you feel about your achievements. It is not about thinking you are perfect – because nobody is – but knowing that you are worthy of being loved and accepted just as you are.
Obviously, when you hold yourself with an inner value, you can showcase yourself with confidence. And when you feel good from within, only the good part of you that will manifest itself.
Boost Your Self-Esteem
It is okay to have ups and downs in your feelings, but having low self-esteem is just not okay. Feeling like you are not important can make you sad and can keep you from trying new things. It can keep you from making friends or hurt how you do at work. Having a strong self esteem is also a very big part of growing up as a person. As we grow older and face tough decisions – especially under peer pressure – the more self esteem you have, the better. It is important to know that you are worth a lot for yourself and for others.
If you think you might have low self-esteem, try talking to an friend you trust. He or she may be able to help you come up with some good ideas for building your self-esteem.
In the meantime, here are a few things that you can try to increase your self-esteem:
+ Give yourself three compliments every day. Don’t just feel, “I am too good.” Be specific about something good about yourself, like, “I was really nice to Alan today” or “I did better on that test than I thought I would.” And before you go to bed every night, recall three things in your day that really made you happy.
+ Remember that your body is your own, no matter what shape, size, or color it is. If you are worried about your weight or size, you can check with your doctor to make sure that things are just fine. Remind yourself of things about your body that are comfortable with, like, “I love my beautiful hair”, or “I love the way I can make people have a laugh or have fun”.
+ Remember that there are things about yourself that you cannot change. You should accept and love those things – such as skin color or your boot size – because they are an integral part of you.
+ When you hear negative comments in your head, tell yourself to stop. When you do this, you take the power away from the voice inside that discourages you.
Feel Good About Yourself
Each one of us are good from our hearts, it is only when we fail to recognize the goodness within, we start to doubt ourselves and lose our self esteem or self worth. By focusing on the good things that you do and all your great qualities, you learn to love and accept yourself – the main ingredients for strong self esteem! Even if you have got room for improvement (and who does not?), realizing that you are valuable and important helps your self-esteem to flower forth for the confidence to shine through – for the world to see and admire the beautiful you.